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chelleybug
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Post subject: What do you do when someone trys to push their religion on u  Posted: Thu Mar 15, 2012 1:53 pm |
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I went to a store yesterday had my 8 year old with me we went to the counter and paid for our items and the clerk asks my daughter if she goes to church and she's no but I have been before. Well she says you should find a church or check out the one we go to we will have a new pastor her shortly.. Well then she starts talking to my daughter about jesus loves you and should remember he is always in your heart... My daughter knows her religion and she did not comment one way or the other she just kind of listened. She has really loves being wiccan with me and this is of her own free wheel. My whole family is into it. Myself more so. I guess what I am asking is how should I handle these situations in public? I so wanted to tell her my beliefs but not sure how she would have responded especially with mu little one with me. Thanks in advance for any advice.
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Post subject: Re: What do you do when someone trys to push their religion Posted: Thu Mar 15, 2012 2:11 pm |
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I suppose it would depend on your time, patience and confidence level. In that position I probably would have nodded and smiled and went on my way. I know others on this thread who are more confident than I am would have politely told her that they are of a different religion and maybe go on to share their spiritual views. For me it would depend on how aggressive this person is which sometimes you can get a feel for. Sometimes, though, people can surprise you and be thoroughly interested in views other than their own. I would say being polite throughout (and not getting frustrated and flustered--really hard for me) is paramount however you go about it. 
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Torey
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Post subject: Re: What do you do when someone trys to push their religion Posted: Thu Mar 15, 2012 2:21 pm |
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I agree with frodo - polite is the better way to go, especially in front of a child, in my opinion. I am not a pacifist and I don't believe in allowing others to push their beliefs down other people's throats, but if they aren't being overtly aggressive with it and are, instead, seemingly innocent/ignorant about what they are doing, I would just smile and walk away.
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Post subject: Re: What do you do when someone trys to push their religion Posted: Thu Mar 15, 2012 4:52 pm |
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I am inclined to agree especially where a child is concerned. When i was following the "christian" path my daughter had surgery, and a female minister came in and talked to her and asked her if she wanted to pray. This nice lady of course according to my husband could not be a minister so I just spoke for my daughter and said "tell the nice lady no thank you". That is what she did and no feelings were hurt.
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Post subject: Re: What do you do when someone trys to push their religion Posted: Thu Mar 15, 2012 5:53 pm |
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hard topic...
I've always bee very protective when it comes to my kids..and I never allowed a stranger to talk to them, no matter what..polite, of course, but with that undertone of "stay away from my cubs!!!"
I think it is wrong to let a stranger to approach a kid talking about something as private as religion.
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chelleybug
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Post subject: Re: What do you do when someone trys to push their religion Posted: Thu Mar 15, 2012 6:21 pm |
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Thanks for the feed back.. Thats what we pretty much did was nod and go our own way.. She wasn't just someone that come up to us she was the one behind the cash register. My daughter took it all in stride I was proud of her.. I just thought of one of my favorite songs as she was talking.. I Am Pagan and the one verse in it you take your path and I'll take mine and we will all be fine. My daughter knows it by heart, she loves it.
I myself am a little shy about telling people what I believe because you're right you never know what type of person you will run into.
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Post subject: Re: What do you do when someone trys to push their religion Posted: Sat Mar 17, 2012 8:26 pm |
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I would have politely told her thank you for your referral and information but my daughter and I attend our own church and WE feel that religion is very personal to us and not something we like to be a part of public discussions due to the controversies both it an politics can cause,,,,cya 
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Post subject: Re: What do you do when someone trys to push their religion Posted: Sat Mar 17, 2012 9:39 pm |
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Depends on my mood really. My children don't really know my religion but I take them to a UU church so I'd say we go to church. if it was just me I might say a bit more
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Post subject: Re: What do you do when someone trys to push their religion Posted: Sun Mar 18, 2012 1:42 am |
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When dealing with the 'great unwashed' aka 'the public', I usually take a chilled out pacifist approach. Instead of confronting the person, losing your cool, getting worked up about it... I think it would be much more important to talk with your child later about the situation. Often times people do the most offensive things to me in public, but I practice letting it go, and letting it be 'their problem'. The moment I get worked up about it, they have won. 
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Post subject: Re: What do you do when someone trys to push their religion Posted: Sun Mar 18, 2012 2:35 am |
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Mostly in the case of Christians, it seems like I've seen a lot of younger 'fired up' teen to college aged individuals who are so enthusiastic that I can't get too offended. When I attend services, I also go to a UU congregation and can easily nod and be polite and say that I already attend a church, but I'm glad to hear how much you love yours...etc. etc...Afterwards, if my children were there, (because if they were there they would have heard everything--children have big eyes and ears) I'd say something like, she sure was nice, but I'm not sure her boss would have liked her talking about church from the cash register and kind of engaged them in a conversation about how it's not polite to talk about religion, politics, illness etc..with people you don't know, at work or even with people you do know at social events.
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Post subject: Re: What do you do when someone trys to push their religion Posted: Sun Mar 18, 2012 2:36 am |
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Well me being me i would have said something along the lines of i know your god loves my child but always remember that the goddess loves you and is with you always smiled and then walked away........but as there was a child involved i would have said something along the lines of thank you for your views and beliefs but i feel that this is a subject we choose not to discuss in public as everyone believes in different things, but again thank you for sharing your beliefs
But then even with a child in toe i tend not to be a polite person all the time lol but then i dont have small children anymore lol
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Post subject: Re: What do you do when someone trys to push their religion Posted: Sun Mar 18, 2012 3:50 pm |
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I just let them say what they want then I just reply, Im Pagan, you should read up on that. OR ill say I believe in the oldest religion, you should research that. After all we owe it to ourselves to know a little about all of it, that way we know where we fit. ~ Elia
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Post subject: Re: What do you do when someone trys to push their religion Posted: Sun Mar 18, 2012 6:59 pm |
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I usually hold up my hand to cut them off now and say, "We can have this discussion later" because public places like that are no place for religious discussions, especially in front of my baby, who will make her own choice when she's ready. I wouldn't even talk to my child like that, actually! I have, however, boldly announced my beliefs twice recently when someone decided to tell me about Jesus' love and both times turned out alright. one person even walked away with a book on Wicca! The other person just said, "Okay" and walked away in a bit of a daze.
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Post subject: Re: What do you do when someone trys to push their religion Posted: Sun Mar 18, 2012 8:26 pm |
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There has been times when I've come right out and said I'm a Witch. That usually shuts them up fast, lol. I love it when their eyes get as big as saucers  Briganta
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Post subject: Re: What do you do when someone trys to push their religion Posted: Sun Mar 18, 2012 8:28 pm |
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Briganta wrote: There has been times when I've come right out and said I'm a Witch. That usually shuts them up fast, lol. I love it when their eyes get as big as saucers Briganta
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