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wxytsnowolf
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Post subject: Hoping I don't sound emo, but I feel so alone right now  Posted: Tue Sep 20, 2011 3:45 am |
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Hi, I'm sorry if I sound over dramatic or something, but I truly feel like I've lost my closest friend and I feel like I have no one I can physically talk to. It's mainly due to the fact that we both changed; and now she thinks she has two 'good' demons in her while still calling herself Wiccan and all she talks about is her boyfriend even though she knows I had a bad relationship and I feel uncomfortable when she does that. I don't talk to her anymore, and I feel like I've been torn appart whenever I see her. I just want some advice, any advice. I just need someone to talk to that truly believes what I do. I feel surrounded by people who unfortunately have been highly misinformed. Sorry if I'm compaining or I sound like I'm whining, but I just needed to get this off my chest before I explode.
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Elia V
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Post subject: Re: Hoping I don't sound emo, but I feel so alone right now Posted: Tue Sep 20, 2011 4:18 am |
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Sorry your feeling bad over a lost friendship, it can hurt, but best advice I can give is ~ if you have been friends a long time you should be happy she is happy, and if you lost your relationship, thats not really her fault, and girls do like to talk about their boyfriends, so kiss and make up, you'll have your friend back and you will also (in the future) fine another love for yourself. But friends are hard to come by. And is it really worth a friend??
Best of luck
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Post subject: Re: Hoping I don't sound emo, but I feel so alone right now Posted: Tue Sep 20, 2011 8:47 am |
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Sometimes people and their interests change ~ Elia poses a good question though, is the change worth losing a friend over? You should be happy that your friend is happy and share in that joy. Good friends that last the test of time are rare ~ if on the other hand you aren't as close as you thought and find yourselves drifting apart, then maybe the question should be was it really a deep and lasting friendship? I hope you find the answers you seek because ultimately only you can find the answers you're looking for.
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Post subject: Re: Hoping I don't sound emo, but I feel so alone right now Posted: Tue Sep 20, 2011 2:11 pm |
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I agree with the above; is it really worth losing a friend? Yes she has a boy friend and is happy but you should also be happy for her. Maybe it is because she spends more time with him? Have you tried telling her how you feel? Maybe she would understand and pay you more attention or let you at least know where you friendship lies with her. A true friend would understand.
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Post subject: Re: Hoping I don't sound emo, but I feel so alone right now Posted: Tue Sep 20, 2011 5:56 pm |
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You've been given some good advice, it's a shame to lose a friend. She should realize though that you're a bit sensitive at this time and maybe back off a bit from talking about the boyfriend for a while.
Why does she feel she has two 'good' demons in her, if you don't mind my asking?
Does she like that??
Briganta
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Post subject: Re: Hoping I don't sound emo, but I feel so alone right now Posted: Tue Sep 20, 2011 6:39 pm |
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The demon part does make me wonder as well...
I went through a hard time in my life when I lost every single one of my girlfriends. I realized just how catty they can be and at first, I was glad to be rid of them. About a year later, after changing, growing up a bit, and learning more about myself, I realized that girls need girls. I forgave and forgot without them even asking. It was hard, I won't lie. But I'm starting to rebuild my relationships with them because I need that feminine energy in my life (but I have grown up enough to know when it's okay for me to walk away when the drama gets to be too much). I guess what I'm saying is, think long and hard about whether or not you want to keep this friend. The decision will stay with you.
Know you're not alone. It's great that you have a place like this to come to and make this post. We're here whenever you need us.
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wxytsnowolf
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Post subject: Re: Hoping I don't sound emo, but I feel so alone right now Posted: Tue Sep 20, 2011 8:51 pm |
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I am so happy for the advice, it has given me a lot to think about; many thanks!!! Though I feel like her and I have separated too much to truly be friends again. I just feel like her and I are on two different planes. But to be honest, my feelings the her and I could not be friends anymore isn't mainly from her talking about her boyfriend a lot, but I can't ever talk to her anymore because its like they're Siamese twins or something. But I could get over all of that if it wasn't for her belief that she is voluntarily hosting two demons and thinks that its normal for a wiccan. Actually, that's why I've grown apart from most of my friends; they're all misinformed - they think that they can go curse people and things of that nature because they're wiccans - which is not what I found or believe when I researched that true Wiccans believe. But I never see them around anymore. And I never felt like I should correct them because I thought they would think I was mean or stupid or something. But for some reason they all decided to stop talking to me before I could get the guts to say anything anyway. To be completely honest with you guys, I just wanted to know that there are real Wiccans out there so I know that there are still people to talk to about this without getting an answer like "I know a good curse you could try" or "one of my 'good' demons told me this..."
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Post subject: Re: Hoping I don't sound emo, but I feel so alone right now Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 3:29 am |
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Well, I think that sometimes you have to let go of negative people in your life, especially if the relationship is toxic. Good for you for being strong enough to do what is best for you. You'll start to feel better real soon and meet new friends.
Your ex-friend sounds like she's quite mixed up. No, Wiccans don't normally walk around thinking they're hosting demons; hopefully she'll stop flirting with things that can land her in a big mess if she doesn't know what she's doing.
There are some people who say it's wrong to curse - many of the newer Wiccan people think this way but the old Wicca always taught how to curse but also how to take responsibility for all your magical actions and to think things through before working any malefic magic.
Oh, I almost forgot - you're never really all alone - your guide will be with you even if you can't "see" him/her in the physical!
Briganta
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